I'm seeming to have 2 problems, any suggestions would be appreciated
1.  Occasionaly brake lights will get stuck on when i get out the car and while i'm driving.  People occassionaly have me roll down my window to t ell me.  I have no idea w hy this is happening.  One time it did it i slamed the passenger door and they went off, opened the door slammed it again and it turned back on, rinse and repeat.  very wierd.  but it doesnt always work like that.

2.  secondly sometimes i'll be driving and randomly the car motor will die (drop down to 0 rpm and sit there) if i'm not mistaken to i think i lose power steering, but the music/lights will stay on.  i'll give the car gas over and over, most the time the motor will kick back in and resume runing.  Car runs and idles great besides that.  I've replaced the spark plugs with iridium IX's, and the plug wires with ngk plug wires.  I ended up replacing the fuel pump and strainer, fuel filter to to no avail.  Any suggestions?  It's not like it does it alot.  last time it happened was over a month ago.  But sometimes it'll do it for a few days and then not for a few months.  its sporatic.
When it does completly die, the car turns over very strong but just wont fire to start.  It just keeps crankin really strong.  2-10 minutes later, bam it starts right up.  Anyone got any ideas?

whats the relays look like?

awesome, i'm going to go take a look in a few mins.  is there any way to test the switch and relays for error? 

also anyone have any ideas on the car dying?

Sounds like my car!  it will go down the road and if I let up on the gas it will, drop RPMs and stall, sometimes coming back to life.  Cranks and starts fine, idles no problem.  Mine does it all the time though.  Took it to a mechanic and they checked if over real well but couldn't make it work.

Mechanic told me to take it to a dealer to have the computer flashed and reprogrammed.  Said there were at least 3 different factory reprogramming issues with the 6cyls which made him suspect the computer.  Did you happen to disconnect the battery recently?